To My Cousin
Observing Anger
Many people are under the
impression that anger is bad and should be avoided at all costs…so they avoid
it, run from it, hide from it, and attempt to bury it by wearing their positive
façade. You know what I’m talking about
as I’m sure you’ve done it, we all have.
By `positive façade` I mean the fake smiles that miserable people like
to wear in order to fool those around them.
Putting a smile on your face in an
attempt to hide the anger and pain within completely defeats the purpose of
being positive in the first place.
Emitting good vibrations (great song, but now it’ll be on my mind for
days) and positive feelings in order to attract like frequencies and more
positivity only works if you genuinely feel good, the positivity and joy must
resonate throughout your entire being.
It just doesn’t work if you feel
like crap and choose to avoid it by pretending to be happy. Eventually, you will no longer be conscious
of the pain, but it’ll still be there acting as a magnet, attracting more and
more negativity into your life.
The first thing to do is realize
that it’s alright to feel the negativity when it’s there. Never try to escape it…just feel it and accept
it, without passing judgment. Anger and
pain are natural, not bad, not good, just frequencies.
Too many people believe anger to be
a bad thing, and actually get mad at themselves for getting mad in the first
place. These people think they’re too
spiritual, or too kind to feel the anger so they end up feeling guilty about it
which leads down a path of self destruction.
When you feel anger or frustration:
-sit quietly and just pay attention
to the way you feel
-focus on both the feeling and the
breath ...it's crucial that you differentiate between feeling and
simply thinking about the anger. If you find
yourself passing judgments, then you are just
thinking and dwelling which is
counter-productive.
-you may feel physical sensations,
just observe them and accept them
-never pass judgment ...the anger is not bad or good, and the situation
which trigggered the anger is not bad or good, no one was right
or wrong, everything is an opinion or perception.
-when you feel neutrality or
positivity then you know you’re finished
Anger can be very
transformative. My greatest teachers
have been those seemingly negative circumstances. Just take life one moment at a time, make the
most of what you’re given. Those
seemingly negative events could turn out to be positive. Just observe!
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